You’re uncuffed. And while it’s not the worst thing, the holidays and occasionally frigid temperatures are a reminder that rolling over to someone whose name you want to remember without a pause might be dope. Where do you find this unicorn? The short answer: probably not at the club.

According to eHarmony, only 2 percent of men and 9 percent of women report finding a mate at a bar or club (hookups are another story). Most end up finding folks they seriously like by getting out and keeping their eyes open when doing things they enjoy— for example, this guy realized he and his fiancee vacationed at the same place as children. Most important, you’ve got to get out of the house.

“He or she won’t be under the Christmas tree. You have to get off the couch, throw on some festive threads and  and hit the holiday event circuit,” says Genese Jamilah, founder of I Don’t Do Clubs, an event and lifestyle website. “Every fraternity, sorority, professional organization, larger companies and social friends have parties to celebrate the season. Take advantage of the plethora of events and get a bae (or at least some options) for the new year.”

Why now? Sponsored and themed events filter attendees, upping the chances of you meeting folks you share common interests with, from career to music to hobbies. Use them. ‘Tis the season to be flirty. Here are a few types of events Genese Jamilah suggests you show up and out at if you’re on the hunt.


If you’re looking for qualities like consideration and kindness (at least during the holiday season) and being a good team player, hit up charity drives, soup kitchens, and similar events to mingle with the volunteers.


Yes, “anyone” can technically end up at a company’s holiday party, but most folks will be there because of personal or professional relationships—which means they are less likely to be on some BS. These are great places to meet savvy professionals who are about their business. This is also the best place to meet a go-getter. Spread your wings and make sure to hit up popular events sponsored by organizations that you are not directly affiliated with to maximize your mingle.

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